Find your sense of self through self-care

Using self-care to nurture a sense of self

This picture reminded me of my mini moment of joy when I saw how Teddy enjoyed our ride to the park.

My most asked question on Instagram is: How do I start to recover from people-pleasing? And many are confused and (or) surprised by my answer: Self-Care! Many expect me to say that setting boundaries is the most important and first thing we need to do. And yes, boundaries are essential, but setting them and developing the skill of speaking up comes from nowhere. Recovering from people-pleasing stems from the self, knowing and understanding yourself, and setting boundaries is just an extension.

When you focus on self-care, you have to focus on yourself, which, for many people, pleasers, is entirely new territory. As people-pleasers, we almost solely focus on others, what they need, how they feel, what they think, what they want, etc (I could go on and on.) But when you start practicing self-care, you have to shift your focus on yourself. You’ll start paying attention to what you need, how you feel, what you think, and what you want. From that focus on your well-being, your boundaries will naturally develop.

In this article, I show you how to get started with self-care. When you start taking care of yourself after years of people-pleasing, you often feel overwhelmed with where to start or feel lost because you don’t know how to approach self-care since you don’t understand what you need, think, want, or feel anymore. In this article, I show you how to create a routine self-care check-in that will help you nurture a strong sense of self.

Self-care isn’t just about taking care of yourself; it’s about being and staying connected to yourself. Self-care will always lead you back to yourself when you feel lost or directionless. Here is how: