Overcoming People-Pleasing: Choosing Discomfort Now to Save Regret Later

Learn to Set Boundaries, Assert Yourself, and Take Control of Your Life and Happiness as a Recovering People-Pleaser

Choosing discomfort now will save you regret later when you look back and realize you've spent too much time and energy pleasing others and not enough time taking care of yourself.

As people-pleasers, we are driven by the need to make others happy and to avoid conflict or disappointment. We tend to put the needs and wants of others above our own, and we struggle with setting boundaries and standing up for ourselves.

One situation in which we often feel a lot of discomfort is when we fail to meet the expectations of others. We may feel a sense of pressure to always cater to others, even when it's simply not possible, and we feel guilty when we can't fulfill the requests, needs, or wants of others.

Another situation in which people-pleasers feel discomfort is when we to say no to others. We often feel guilty or ashamed when we have to turn down a request or cannot do what we are asked. When we consistently don't set boundaries or assert ourselves, that causes a build-up of resentment, can lead to burnout, and greatly affect our self-esteem and self-worth.

We also feel discomfort when communicating our needs, as we fear displeasing others, having difficult conversations, and being rejected if we take up space. This can cause us to feel a lot of frustration, powerlessness, and a sense of being at the mercy of others and not having control over our own life.

However, staying stuck in our people-pleasing patterns is painful and uncomfortable. It causes us to lose our sense of self, cycle in and out of burnout, and harbor a lot of secret resentment. It's important to understand that the personal consequences we suffer from chronic people-peasing outweigh the discomfort we feel when we consider our own needs, set boundaries, and stand up for ourselves.

In this article, we will look at the following:

• Situations that make people-pleasers uncomfortable but that we need to learn to overcome to heal

• Signs you're experiencing discomfort

• Early signs of experiencing discomfort

• Instructions on how to manage discomfort in the moment

• Instructions on how to explore the underlying beliefs that cause you discomfort

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