Overgiving in Relationships: Why We Do It and How to Stop

Understanding the Signs and Asking the Hard Questions to Find Fulfillment

Many of us have felt like we've given too much in a relationship. Like we spend too much time, energy, and love on someone, only to find that they don't appreciate it or, worse, take it for granted.

We might ignore the signs that our relationships aren't giving us what we need or even act in ways that try to make things work with people who can't give us what we want. But at some point, we have to ask ourselves why we keep doing this and why we keep giving too much to people who don't value us.

Self-reflection is a powerful tool that can help us figure out what drives us and why we do the things we do. If you always give more in your relationships than you get back, it might be time to ask yourself some hard questions.

Self-reflection questions if you overgive

• Do you think you have to prove yourself to other people?

• Do you worry about being by yourself?

• Do you tend to give too much in other parts of your life?