The Harmful Connection Between People-Pleasing and Perfectionism

Signs, Beliefs, and Strategies to Overcome Your Need to Be Perfect and Please Others

Many of us struggle with our need to make others happy and to be perfect. Seemingly people-pleasing and perfectionism seem to be unrelated, but I find that they are often connected.

In this post, we will discuss how people-pleasing and perfectionism are connected and how to recognize that you're a people-pleaser and a perfectionist. We will also look at typical beliefs perfectionists, and people-pleasers hold. Plus, I will provide solutions to quit both behaviors and support you with self-reflection questions designed to help you explore your need to be perfect and please others.

Signs of People-Pleasing and Perfectionism

People-pleasing and perfectionism can appear in different ways, but they are often two sides of the same coin. Here are some common signs that you might be a people-pleaser and a perfectionist:

Signs of trying to please people:

• Difficulty setting boundaries

• Fear of rejection or disapproval from others