“I dont plan to help out any more if you continue to only ask me and not involve brother more for your day to day assistance” - does this sound more like a threat? Although it seems to let me have the control and protects my boundary, immense guilt comes over me when this is what i really want to say.
Hi Glara! First of all thank you for sharing. I think everyone here has been in the situation where we feel intense guilt around things we want to share with others, and a sense that we’re being mean or selfish. That doesn’t make you a bad person, it simply shows you have a lot of empathy and deeply care about the people around you. If you’d like, you can share a bit more about your situation and I can help you come up with a way to phrase your boundary so that you feel better about setting it.
Thank you sooooooo much!
“I dont plan to help out any more if you continue to only ask me and not involve brother more for your day to day assistance” - does this sound more like a threat? Although it seems to let me have the control and protects my boundary, immense guilt comes over me when this is what i really want to say.
Hi Glara! First of all thank you for sharing. I think everyone here has been in the situation where we feel intense guilt around things we want to share with others, and a sense that we’re being mean or selfish. That doesn’t make you a bad person, it simply shows you have a lot of empathy and deeply care about the people around you. If you’d like, you can share a bit more about your situation and I can help you come up with a way to phrase your boundary so that you feel better about setting it.