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Tina's avatar

Dear Klara, I screenshotted much of this as the language you used to describe yourself reminded me of me. I'm 58 and am happy Instagram has brought me to you. My favourite saying is, better late than never. Thank you, I have much to learn (and unlearn). I can feel something shifting just writing these words. All the best Tina xx

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Saima Durrani's avatar

I just finished reading your story, Klara, and I want to say, thank you for sharing it with such honesty. The courage it takes to walk away from something that doesn’t feel right, even when it looks impressive on the outside, is something I deeply admire. I’ve also experienced a similar turning point in my own way, and I agree, once we make that hardest decision, the road ahead often feels lighter, even if it’s still challenging. Wishing you continued peace and growth on your new path.

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anon's avatar

stumbled across this at the perfect time. i just got done crying about feeling like i am not complete. this resonated so much to me and i needed to hear this

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Grace's avatar

I can totally resonate with this! I still get stumped when my therapist asks me, "but what do YOU want?" because I'm so used to just thinking about others. But I'm slowly learning and taking steps to become freed from the people-pleasing and codependency engrained in me my whole life. Thank you so much for this. I feel less alone reading your experience.

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Klara Kernig's avatar

Grace, thank you for taking time to write a comment and sharing your journey with us. I know what you mean by being stumped when we think about what we want. It can be scary to not know and it can bring up anxiety, I know it did for me. I'm proud of you for working at it, for seeking out a therapist and for being here and getting more information on how to heal from people-pleasing. It means a lot to me that you feel less alone after reading my story, it sharing it worthwhile. :)

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